People want nice people on their side all the time because they have open hearts and tamed egos. Nice people are caring, loving, empathetic, and considerate. But one fundamental flaw the author finds with people who are nice is that they tend to be people pleasing persons. People pleasers, according to him, overextend themselves by giving and continuing to give at the expense of themselves. They do not think about what it takes to recuperate. When one is giving, he should take them to recover, but not so with nice people pleasers. What they need is balance because no one can be successful in giving without taking time to recover and recuperate. That is why the author believes that there is nothing as a nice person. Humans could be inherently good but it is a choice for us either to be kind or not to be kind. The author believes that one weakness of niceness which makes it superficial is that they care for others and neglect their own self. That is why niceness leads to a self-imposed prison. They could have repressed anger, guilt, and remorse with the belief that nice people do not have these emotions. What nice people need is balance.

Key Takeaways:

  • Everybody wants a nice person on his side once in a while because they are caring, empathetic, and loving. They have tamed egos and open hearts.
  • On the other hand, we tend to reject being people pleasers who tend to overextend themselves by giving and giving without having something in return.
  • The author believes and tends to support that believe that there is no such person as a nice person because it is a choice each of us makes.

“Like all forces, balance is necessary. No one can consistently give without recuperation, or the support of others.”

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